It took me a long time to accept that I’m asexual. I’ve ruined several relationships through my denial, and forced myself to do things I didn’t want to because I felt I ought to want to do those things. I wanted to fix something that was never broken, and hurt myself in the process.
I don’t know why I struggled so much to accept this part of myself. There’s a lot of pressure to be sexual in society. Relationships are devalued if there’s no sex involved. But I do love, romantically and platonically. Whatever was holding me back, I’m ready to accept my asexuality now. I’m ready to build my pride until it overshadows my shame.
Facts about asexuality
- Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction, but not all asexuals experience no attraction at all. Some are demisexual and only experience sexual attraction after an emotional connection has formed. Some are greyasexual and experience sexual attraction only under specific circumstances.
- There are a lot of ways to be asexual, and some asexuals enjoy sex for various reasons. Others may be sex repulsed, and made uncomfortable by any mention of it.
- It’s not a disorder or something to fix.
- If you can understand not being sexually attracted to an entire gender, then you can understand not experiencing sexual attraction.
- Asexuality is inherently LGBTIQA+.
Kian Hall 